Dating 101: "I'm Just Seeing Your Text Message" - blogged by: @milagreee

In an age where your phone has a permanent position in your dominant hand, the fact that people are still using the excuse, “I didn’t see your text,” or “I forgot to respond” is quite ridiculous. We are glued to our phones constantly, whether it be on social media or just simply texting our lives away. Let's be serious, people get into car accidents because they can't put their phone long enough to drive ten minutes home from work.

When thrown into the trials and tribulations of dating, I can only come up with one response to such disrespect, shut up. It is almost impossible for someone to just have seen your text unless they were working and quite literally couldn’t, or didn’t, have access to their phone. Some of these people have managed to add insult to injury, if possible, by leaving their read receipts on and allowing you to view that your message had been read. How do you even respond to someone who tells you they  "just now" saw your text when they clearly read it hours ago? You don’t. Why? Because you weren’t that important to them. How do you figure? BECAUSE they couldn’t spare 20 seconds to answer your text message.

Now, being naïve might be beneficial for some because they are able to practically smile their way through the slaps and shade that is clearly thrown their way. But when you have very analytical mind, you tend to see things clearly. At times, this analytical mind might get you in trouble as you might see things that aren’t even there. Learning how to differentiate between what is there and what your mind has concocted is difficult. I believe that is when intuition jumps in.  You know when someone is ignoring you as well as when someone is eager to hear from you.  Take a second and step out of your situation. Leave the emotions and seriously think about what you would say if a friend presented you with your current situation.

Your friend tells you that he didn’t answer till days later but still he answered. She has this hopeful, borderline pathetic tone to her voice and you don’t want to be the bearer of bad news, but you have to tell her that she’s clearly allowing her emotions for this guy to cloud her judgment. You wouldn’t advise her to continue the pursuit of said gentleman for fear that it might make her look … pathetic? You would tell her that he clearly isn’t that into her, in nicer terms I should hope, but none the less your statement would be loud and clear: LEAVE HIM ALONE!

When someone is into you, it doesn’t take them three days to respond to your text message. They actually respond in a decent manner, either with gusto or urgency to speak to you. You can tell the difference between someone who is blatently being cold. Just because they feel compelled to respond, doesn’t mean they are interested in the same manner that you are. This person might want to keep you around in case their current significant other bails, they might want to keep you around in case they need an ego boast. Whatever the case might be, you should wave goodbye to them because you are not a priority boo.

I know it might seem as though I am bringing things back to Dating 101. I know some of you are thinking “duh…” but the fact of the matter is that someone people need to hear the cold and hard facts. Some people really ARE oblivious to the fact that they’re being put on the back burner and continue their pursuit of unhappiness, all due to their inability to put their emotions aside and think with their brain and not their hearts.

So my advice when it comes to someone who puts you away for three days is the following: move on, don’t settle for the back burner and don’t even dignify their lack of respect with a response. 

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