The Breakup Process Timeline by Kevin Ferere @KEVINFERERE

After I completed the compilation for "Leave The Fairy Tales Up To Disney": The Reality of Dating (click here), there was a portion within the book originally titled, "Rebounding The Right Way".

In this portion of the book, I give a scientifically, theoretical approach to breaking up as a PROCESS.  I emphasized it so vehemently because it seems we've (including myself) have been trained to think that the only way to get over someone is to date someone else immediately after.  What a crock o' crap!!! lol

What made me realize it as a process was doing it the wrong way...and watching soooo many others do it the wrong way too, then learning from it, THEEEEEN doing it the right way.  I like to make a systematic formula to success, in anything that I do; hence, I took the approach below.

• Step 1 - Trauma
  • Phase 1 - Realization
    • Realizing the relationship isn't going anywhere or going anywhere good.
  • Phase 2 - Immobilization
    • Wanting to get out of the relationship but not being ready to.  Possibly leaving and coming right back.
  • Phase 3 - Readiness
    • Pushed to the point of actually leaving the relationship and NEVER coming back.
• Step 2 - Recovery
  • Phase 1 - Emotional Disconnect
    • Getting over your feelings for them.
  • Phase 2 - Psychological Disconnect
    • Getting over the thoughts and habits of being with them.  Reclaiming your identity.
  • Phase 3 - Logistical Disconnect
    • Getting back on your feet financially after leaving.
• Step 3 - Rebound
  • Self explanatory.  You're dating new people.

Like I said, all this is theoretical.  There are waaaaay too many variables, yet this process (if applied with the slightest effort) is starkly relevant.  Breaking up is one of the guarantees of life.  Put yourself in a position to have no choice but to be successful.  Buy my book, "Leave The Fairy Tales Up To Disney": The Reality of Dating"

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