5 KEYS 🔑 To Finding Love

"People use others to occupy there loneliness and subsequently ruin their lives because of it.

You might chase after a guy, or even get pregnant, just out of the sheer thought of having an actual baby. Never considering how that child will develop or what kind of structure they may have around them. Chasing attention, chasing friends, chasing adoration. Etc.

Chase proper priorities, chase sanity, chase discernment, but most importantly; don't chase...pursue."

#1. Get a hobby or a pet

Who are you?  How do you know what you like and what you don't like?  What about you is interesting?  If you're not interesting, how can someone find you interesting enough to be in love with you?  Loving someone is loving their company.  You must love your own company; in other words, not being afraid of being alone.  If you don't like your own company, or if you don't like being alone; you can't expect someone else to like your company, to even as much as fall in love with you.

Bringing a life (baby) into the world will never bring you the love that you're looking for.  The parent-child relationship is purely unconditional, however, it will never replace the love from a man.  If it's that serious, a pet will do.  Don't kid yourself.

#2. Identify & Accept who you are

You know what type of person/friend/lover you are.  Be real with yourself.  Everyone wants to leave a good first impression, but if who you are isn't compatible for a relationship, fighting/rushing to get into a relationship is not going to fix you.  Being in love means being real.  Being real about the good, the bad, and not the ugly doesn't make you real; and won't allow real love.

#3. Relinquish titles and formalities

Love is formless.  Love doesn't care whether you're married, whether you're "sir" or "ma'am", how much money you have or what you have going for you.  Love doesn't care if its the first date; or how many days, weeks, or months it's been.  If you expect to find love, following a set of rules and structures, that were impressed upon you by friends, family, and media; all you'll find is one big game, whereas your happiness takes a backseat.  If you want a safe and secure "American Dream", titles and formalities will put you on the fast track.

Love has no names.

#4. Being comfortable with uncertainty

There are no guarantees in love.  Love is a moment.  Whether it last 20 minutes or 20 years.  You'll never know where it is coming or going.  No matter what guarantees your partner is giving you.

Appreciate the moment, because the moment is all you have.

#5. Get comfortable with pain

As I mentioned the "good, bad, and ugly" earlier, love is a package deal.  Whether you can control who you love or not, will forever be up to debate.  But if you fall in love, you can't control the one you love...nor should you try.  Being as that there are things you can't control, you must accept that there are going to be things about that person or relationship that won't be pleasurable.

HOW WILL YOU MANAGE IT?

In the advent of the natural "fight or flight" survival response of human beings.  Your judgement must be clear.  They say love can cloud your judg...BULLSHIT!!!

Love is mature and level headed.  NO don't run at the first sign of pain.  BUT respect and heed the red flags.  Gain clarity and wisdom...I could go on all day.



🔑🔑🔑Don't chase...pursue🔑🔑🔑

You may have heard this before...

If you're chasing something...that means it's running from you.