"Gold-digger"...is it really a bad name? by Kevin Ferere @KEVINFERERE


I love how life and living slowly morph your way of thinking (but then again, why are old people so stubborn?...I digress).  But looking back on how impressive peer pressure and group-thinking can be urges me to wanna become some kind of social rebel.  I guess this is the same vein in which I derive so many of my blog and vlog (my youtube channel) topics.

So I came across the article @MadameNoire (click here) breaking down the reasons to date a rich man.  And I'm telling myself, "duuuuh", but also thinking, if I were to read this 5-10 years ago, I would've been disgusted.  But not disgusted over the content of the article, but disgusted at the sheer vanity of it all.  I probably would've said to myself, "well, what about her loving me for me?"; and then start feeling sorry for myself and demonizing any woman who would subscribe to such credence.

What money has shown me is that nature never changes.  What we want and what people want from us, innately, we must adhere to; no matter how contrary we may feel or how we feel things should be.  And what we want and what other people want from us, innately, doesn't change, whether rich or poor.  For instance, us men aren't bashful about wanting a fat ass and tits, right?  So why be double standard about it?

Men knocking gold-diggers merely comes from the bandwagon the more well-to-do men have purported.  Not to mention the stories of these men getting their wallets dragged through the cleaners, "in the name of Love"; and those women disappearing without a trace.  But those are the most extreme cases.

Reading the article (click here), the points made were quite valid, being as that they pertain to what women inherently desire in nature; circumventing convenience and security; which I talk about in the compilation of the Prosperity Unlimited LLC dating book series (click here).  But some of the points made were:

  • "Baggage claim" - mainly stating that if a woman has "issues", a man with enough money can put a "band-aid" on it.
    • I wouldn't claim this being the healthiest of ideals, but it does make sense.  Remember my two-headed monster..."money & sex".
  • Wine & Dine - quite obvious.  What woman doesn't like to be wined and dined.  
    • I always say, "No matter how appreciative she is, she'll eventually get tired of going to McDonalds." #kanyeshrug
  • Security - In regards to my Two-Headed Monster theory, let's not lie to ourselves.  Intimacy is alot easier when you're not worrying about bills.  You know I'm right.
  • (Drumroll please...) POWER - "No one man can have all that..." The guilty pleasure and a pleasing guilt.  There is no denying all the relational attributes power entails; the respect, the attention, the convenience, the wealth, the security.  C'mon, I 'm a guy, and even I'm attracted to powerful men. #nohomo #pause
    • But we also must keep in perspective the attribution of power in nature.  For this is where the attraction originates
There also may be others, in my opinion, like attention, flashiness, upward class mobility/elitism.  Now, those points I made may make a woman look vein, yet they're still a reality, which makes them valid.  

But all in all, trying to maintain a committed relationship and raise a family, starkly opened my eyes to the realities of nature and money.  We can go on all day about the beauties of the wild and nature, but at the end of the day, that lion is still gonna chase that gazelle, and when he catches him...

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