"What's Love Got To Do With It?": How Love REALLY fits into a relationship? by @KEVINFERERE

I get asked this all the time, "So Kevin.  Why are you single?"  And I'm like, "ooooooh boy, here we go!  Lemme go ahead and break down the obvious!"  But then I'm like, "wait...if it were that obvious, would they be asking?  Or are they just trying to confirm what they already know?...WHY THEY ALL UP IN MY BUSINESS ANYWAY?!" WOOooooosaaaaaaah...
But the peculiarity is that, me, already have been in a couple serious relationships; I happen to know what it takes to be in one.  When you ask most other people, or guys specifically as to why they choose to remain single, alot of it is along the lines of keeping themselves available for new pussy...(I'm no angel...don't get it twitsted.)  But for me it's different.  See, I'm forced to draw from the memory bank of my experiences.  Now, I am wise enough to have learned from my mistakes and look back on my experiences in a positive light.  But concerning the reasons I choose to stay single, those aren't what I draw back on.
I concern myself with what it took to maintain the relationship.  The emotional stamina and patience to withstand the ups and downs.  See, life has it's own set of ups and downs already, but to go through that and make an effort to engendor some sort of congeniality with someone of the opposite sex?  You better be damn sure it's something you truly want, and something you truly want with that specific person.  And not to mention, can you see yourself wanting it yeeeeeeaaaaars down the road?
When I was younger, Memphis Bleek was one of my most favorite rappers (I was 'bout that life. #dontjudgeme) and he had a popular song in Brooklyn that went along the lines of, "Got my mind right, money right, now I'm ready for war..."  Now, of course, I wouldn't analogize a relationship to a war...ok, yes I would.  But let's think for a second, think of war in a sense as an engagement of communion.  It takes focus, and resources; mind right, money right. (Follow me...)  Doesn't a relationship require these things? 
People (well, women, I should say) diminish the stake of pressure placed upon a man when meriting the interest of a woman into his life, logistically.  They mainly do so to support their own argument, because for them, it's about being right; not being true.  But I digress...
But men understand that they can't go into a relationship laxidasically.  Women go on and on about their fears of getting to know someone all over again, and wanting long term and meaningful, and no more "hit it and quit it." BLAAAAAH WHAT-EVERRRRRR!!!  Deep down in the back of her mind, it's nothing but you and her in a daisy field, spinning each others arms, happily ever after. (makes me sick!  yuuuuck!!!) 
It's the man who's terrified!  Like, "oh shit, I better check up on my retirement...make sure my insurance is together...wait...what's my credit score???"  Well, that's if he's a man. (Don't start...) 
But in all this, where did Love come in?  You're right...it didn't.  See when contemplating a relationship, Love is more like a luxury.  Yes, we all want to be with someone we love, but it's such a conundrum when you love someone, but your shit isn't together; or you may have your shit together, but not love that person; or vice versa.  She's busy building a relationship, he's building a life for the both of em, and Love is just in the wind. And when the smoke clears, and it's all said and done, where's Love?  You can control a relationship, but you can't control Love.  And that's the one thing that fucks most people up...men and women.
Now, with all that said, can you blame me for deciding to stay single?  But I know I won't be single forever.  I just know that when I get into relationship, myself, and that beautiful lady would be in a position whereas we can flow with Love...without trying to control it.  NOW DOES THAT ANSWER YOUR QUESTION??? lol


Comments

Unknown said…
You have some intetesting points.