"The Black Widow": Man-Eating Women by Kevin Ferere @KEVINFERERE
black widow - a venomous New World spider of the genus Latrodectus (L. mactans) the female of which is black with an hourglass-shaped red mark on the underside of the abdomen...The male, about one-fourth the female's size, is often killed and eaten by the female after mating (the source of its name).
When I first learned of this creature, I thought, "how dastardly of nature to bring forth such atrocities!" Yet one thing I've learned from nature is that it is the universe's way of teaching us about ourselves. So I thought "hmmm, a female spider...a female...BRILLIANT!!!"
(NO BASHING)
But for real though, lets think about this. She eats the male after mating...then feeds the remains to her young. #cmonson!!! Now, not to get confused with a golddigger (that's a whole other ball game, and remember, we discussed there's nothing wrong with that name, click here). Black widows prey on any suitable man, not just one who is financially well-off.
I think more men have been victim to black widows than golddiggers. In the book, "Leave The Fairy Tales Up To Disney": The Reality of Dating (click here), I discuss that women are taught, from the time they're children, that in order to actualize and validate their womanhood, they must marry and have children. Most aren't taught as to whom they marry and have kids, nor as to under what circumstances they should do so.
In lieu of such misguidance, as you look around, there's this "baby-momma" epidemic going around. Whereas, women are complacent with finally having children before their "clocks" run out, regardless of what man is in their lives. Let's think, how many baby showers have you attended, or been invited to and the father is no where in sight, or if he is, there's no real relationship for the sake of that child??? Don't get me wrong, there are a PLETHORA of other factors leading up to the complacency of single parenthood in our Western culture. We shan't digress-eth!!! lol
Many times men are viewed as accessories in these womens' lives, like pawns on a chessboard; interchangeable and expendable. They show him off, put up pics and brag on their IG or FB profiles. Hug him up in public. But the minute things go awry, THEY'RE ON TO THE NEXT. Now, this may make them look cool and empowered on the surface, but on a deeper level, it reveals how shallow and vain these women truly are.
Look, all I'm saying is that if all you want is validation as a woman, SEEK COUNSELING. But if you love a man, and want to bring into the world a new life with that specific man and raise a family together...then marry that man.
P.S. ...get a prenup first though (click here)
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