SEX vs. Intimacy by Kevin Ferere @KEVINFERERE
I've come to learn alot about women on a much deeper level. NOW, YOU KNOW ME! Whenever I notice something consistent amongst different observations with similar characteristics, traits, or attributes; I begin to apply the scientific method.
Let us commence our deductions, shall we? In the first video above, it is mentioned that vulnerability is a prerequisite of intimacy, being that it is a mutual experiences; whereas, sexuality is more one sided, being that the woman is simply feeding her ego, and being emotionally empowered. So it would make sense why it would be such a safe bet to carry yourself in a sexual manner.
What perplexes me, personally, is that being sexual attracts all sorts of attention towards you; positive or negative, warranted or unwarranted. Granted for most fat and/or "hood" women, any kind of attention would suffice. However, intimate attention they find repulsive?
I think this striking defense mechanism comes from two things:
Emotional confusion:
Most people who aren't as socially accepted find it hard to tell when people are expressing themselves genuinely toward them. They may have had experiences in the past whereas someone they were intimate with had ulterior motives, which in turn deceptively shamed them and created a habitual learned response not to trust anyone enough to be intimate with.
Emotional repression:
Low self-esteem people may come from cultural environments where expressing VULNERABLE emotion and being compassionate is frowned upon or even ridiculed. In turn, they aren't afforded many opportunities to bond with others on deeper levels and are many times put in positions where they are left to their own emotions in solitude, bottled in. And most times, in those same environments, the only time true, raw emotion is expressed is in heightened moments of anger and/or frustration. And in times such as those, much emotion isn't expressed effectively because it's so clouded by anger and frustration.
Now, me pointing out these observations, by no means, justifies either of which. It is simply stated for the purpose of enlightening the reader. Yet, in lieu of such peril, what can be done to overcome such hindrances? Better yet, do they need be surpassed at all? Vicariously, I would assume so, on those peoples' behalf.
But that's the terrifyingly funny thing about comfort zones, THEY'RE COMFORTABLE. And you never feel the need to change when you're comfortable. So until then, they'll be coming around the mountain when they come. As for me...I ain't got time to wait. #DEUCES!!!
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